Destination Fertilization-A Woman’s Perspective

The more and more I learn about myself, the better I understand that it definitely takes ONE mighty man {of God} to get to the core of a woman’s being.  Like a woman’s egg, everything that is vital to reproduction of love is surrounded by this tough membrane that is often caused by relational hardships.  Some hardships are self-induced due to placing our hearts in unnecessary situations that lead to frequent rejection, skewed self-perception, betrayal, lies, poor judgment. Due to these self-inflictions, a barrier is created around that which is mostly responsible for producing a fruitful relationship-OUR HEARTS.

We allow various people to enter in creating emotional promiscuity and at times even sexual promiscuity–all for the sake of chasing after counterfeit love.  This damaging process can lead to emotional physical, spiritual, and psychological defects.

Many of the wrong encounters with the wrong men have the vitality of most sperm–when not in the appropriate environment–it’s short lived. Typically, we can gauge quite a bit from the initial conversations, and discern whether his conversation/interaction has the stamina to make it or will his attempt to fertilize our hearts be an epic fail.

Like sperm, many men have access to our hearts via the same route; however, more likely than not, the journey to heart fertilization is halted before a real relationship is ever created. Typically the halt emerges from insecurities, mistrust, lack of friendship, distractions, timing or simply because he was just not the man for you.  However, there is that ONE persistent, persevering man who maneuvers his way through the barrier(s) to reach your heart. He fights though all the things that others didn’t have the energy or the power to travel through.  He penetrates the toughness, fights through a situation that is foreign to him, and perseveres until he reaches core of your heart.  This is the man who is able to fertilize your heart and aid in the reproduction of a fruitful relationship.


CHARACTERISTICS OF A MAN READY TO GIVE LOVE:

1) HE IS FERTILE: A man who is lifeless, is comfortable living in sin, consumed by worldly desires, and will produce a dead relationship. He may fertilize your heart, even allow you to birth what appears to be healthy, but in the end, when it is all said and done, all you have left is a still birth relationship–looks like a real relationship, feels like a real relationship–but is lifeless.

2) HE’S SET APART: He is a provider. He is focused.  He has a target and he knows how to shoot for it. He has a goal. He is ahead of the rest. He’s persistent.  He perseveres.  He endures the challenging conditions and is victorious. He pushes through all the barriers of your heart to get down to what truly resides in the core.

BUT WOMEN, KEEP IN MIND THAT REPRODUCTION IS NOT BASED SOLELY ON THE EFFORTS OF THE MAN

There are several components the woman must offer to assist in bringing life to the relationship.

CHARACTERISTICS OF A WOMAN READY TO RECEIVE LOVEp:

1) RECOGNIZE THE GOOD MAN:

So many women’s hearts are severely hardened, that they shun the mere idea of having a relationship. These are the ones who carry the “MISS SELF-RELIANT, MISS SELF-SUFFICIENT, MISS I CAN DO IT BY MYSELF” attitude, that she couldn’t recognize a good man if it hit her in the face.

2) SHE MUST BE READY TO RECEIVE LOVE:

As stated above, these women are so dependent upon themselves, that they are not able to receive from a man who has the ability to aid in reproduction Because she is not able to receive a relationship filled with life, she aborts the possibility of love.

3) HER HEART MUST PROVIDE AN ENVIRONMENT CONDUCIVE FOR THE BIRTH OF LOVE:

She must be able to provide an environment that is conducive for implantation (attachment) and fertilization (union)  Providing this type of environment; helps aid in the healthy maturation of the life of the relationship.

LASTLY…

4) SHE MUCH NURTURE THE PRODUCT OF LOVE:

Typically, a specific characteristic we possess is a nurturer. Just as we would nourish/nurture our children, we must treat our marriage {present/future} with the same regard.

I know, I know… it seems like the women have all the hard work!!!  But actually, it’s a team effort.  A man needs a woman–and a woman needs a man!

CLOSING REMARKS:

Real love doesn’t occur just because two people meet. It’s a challenging, yet delicate process. One particular man purposefully takes his seed of love and implants it into the vacancy of a woman’s heart. It is up to the woman to receive that seed and create an environment that is conducive to the healthy development of love. It is pertinent to have no one or nothing disrupt its process  Successful fertilization of this seed requires the fusion of one seed and one heart. Other additives (too many people in your business, too many opinions, too many insecurities, unhealed sources) may obliterate the possibility of the life forming in the relationship.

ARE YOU READY FOR LOVE?

C.B. Spyies

A God of All Seasons

A GOD OF ALL SEASONS

The seasonal changes in Atlanta have been quite odd this year.  At moments where it should be cooling down in preparation for the arrival of winter, the weather has remained at temperatures akin to spring.  I haven’t even had to break in well my fall/winter attire.  Nevertheless, despite the confusion of the weather, the leaves and flowers all stand in agreement as they are clothed in their garments of autumn.  Yellows, reds, oranges, and minimal greens scribble against the walls of nature as a reminder that regardless of how it may feel–Fall is here.

Recently, while riding with a friend to go get some breakfast, we were halted at a traffic light.  Immediately, before us stood a picturesque view of autumn kissed trees in the distance–slightly glossed with mid-day fog. As I casually talked with him, I stopped amidst our conversation to comment on the beauty of creation that stood before us. He was in agreement. But as this view was momentarily frozen in time, the passage of Ecc. 3 came to mind.

In this moment as I gazed at the snapshot of autumn in the horizon, I was reminded that seasons change. The visual image reminded me that if God can equip even nature in the mist of seasonal changes, does he not even consider us in the midst of seasonal changes in our immediate environment.

God is a God of ALL seasons! What do I mean by thatJust as quickly as God makes environmental changes so that the trees and animals can adapt to shifts in climate…he moves just as quickly in our lives to adapt to the shifts we encounter–hormonal shifts, relational shifts, shifts in finances, shifts in employment, shifts in transition from life to death—from death to life…In every transitional phase of life–God is always present.

It appears that this year has been one of the most fluctuating seasons in my life that I and some of my friends have ever encountered and the passage of Ecc. 3 appears to be so befitting. From new births, marriages, new relationships, severing of relationships and an immense amount of deaths have highlighted our lives over the past few months. It’s a constant reminder that to everything there is a season.

A Time for Everything

1 There is a time for everything,  and a season for every activity under the heavens…

In closing, may God equip you to adapt to the changes in your environment.  May you extract life lessons from each transition that will develop you, enhance you, and advance you as your progress through various stages of life. May you never get weary or lose hope when the climate in your life fluctuates.  Though it may unsettling at first, there will be a time where these shifts will calm and you will be able to enjoy what the individual season has to offer.

Honey Lips

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Proverbs 16: 23-24 reads:

The heart of the wise instructs his mouth and adds persuasiveness to his lips. Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.

Harmful words/actions can cause deep wounds that can be resistant to healing as more and more harmful expressions like bacteria seep into an already gaping wound. Although our wounds may heal, sometimes there are lasting scars, some more susceptible to infection than others. We try to bandage the wounds with facades of having tough skin–acting out the childhood cliché, “sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me”. The truth of the matter is, when these bandages are ripped off prematurely, it’s easy for old wounds to re-open.

Eventually, over time, harsh words/actions can become necrotic–eating away at our character–causing us to become guarded, negative and hard, further promoting the spread of toxic/poisonous communication to others.

FOOD FOR THOUGHT…

Ancient research has found that honey can not only be used as a natural sweetener, but also has several valuable properties for healing.

1) It prohibits the growth of bacteria from entering a wound.

2) It helps keeps skin moist, encouraging the growth of new tissue, reduces the likelihood of scarring, and promotes easy removal of bandages

3) Helps kills cells that cause cancer

How are the words that flow from your lips? Are they naturally sweet? Or artificially sweetened?

As we continue to crucify our flesh daily–let us keep in mind that our words have meaning and can impact others in drastic ways. Let’s strive to impact in a drastically healthy way!