Destination Fertilization-A Woman’s Perspective

The more and more I learn about myself, the better I understand that it definitely takes ONE mighty man {of God} to get to the core of a woman’s being.  Like a woman’s egg, everything that is vital to reproduction of love is surrounded by this tough membrane that is often caused by relational hardships.  Some hardships are self-induced due to placing our hearts in unnecessary situations that lead to frequent rejection, skewed self-perception, betrayal, lies, poor judgment. Due to these self-inflictions, a barrier is created around that which is mostly responsible for producing a fruitful relationship-OUR HEARTS.

We allow various people to enter in creating emotional promiscuity and at times even sexual promiscuity–all for the sake of chasing after counterfeit love.  This damaging process can lead to emotional physical, spiritual, and psychological defects.

Many of the wrong encounters with the wrong men have the vitality of most sperm–when not in the appropriate environment–it’s short lived. Typically, we can gauge quite a bit from the initial conversations, and discern whether his conversation/interaction has the stamina to make it or will his attempt to fertilize our hearts be an epic fail.

Like sperm, many men have access to our hearts via the same route; however, more likely than not, the journey to heart fertilization is halted before a real relationship is ever created. Typically the halt emerges from insecurities, mistrust, lack of friendship, distractions, timing or simply because he was just not the man for you.  However, there is that ONE persistent, persevering man who maneuvers his way through the barrier(s) to reach your heart. He fights though all the things that others didn’t have the energy or the power to travel through.  He penetrates the toughness, fights through a situation that is foreign to him, and perseveres until he reaches core of your heart.  This is the man who is able to fertilize your heart and aid in the reproduction of a fruitful relationship.


CHARACTERISTICS OF A MAN READY TO GIVE LOVE:

1) HE IS FERTILE: A man who is lifeless, is comfortable living in sin, consumed by worldly desires, and will produce a dead relationship. He may fertilize your heart, even allow you to birth what appears to be healthy, but in the end, when it is all said and done, all you have left is a still birth relationship–looks like a real relationship, feels like a real relationship–but is lifeless.

2) HE’S SET APART: He is a provider. He is focused.  He has a target and he knows how to shoot for it. He has a goal. He is ahead of the rest. He’s persistent.  He perseveres.  He endures the challenging conditions and is victorious. He pushes through all the barriers of your heart to get down to what truly resides in the core.

BUT WOMEN, KEEP IN MIND THAT REPRODUCTION IS NOT BASED SOLELY ON THE EFFORTS OF THE MAN

There are several components the woman must offer to assist in bringing life to the relationship.

CHARACTERISTICS OF A WOMAN READY TO RECEIVE LOVEp:

1) RECOGNIZE THE GOOD MAN:

So many women’s hearts are severely hardened, that they shun the mere idea of having a relationship. These are the ones who carry the “MISS SELF-RELIANT, MISS SELF-SUFFICIENT, MISS I CAN DO IT BY MYSELF” attitude, that she couldn’t recognize a good man if it hit her in the face.

2) SHE MUST BE READY TO RECEIVE LOVE:

As stated above, these women are so dependent upon themselves, that they are not able to receive from a man who has the ability to aid in reproduction Because she is not able to receive a relationship filled with life, she aborts the possibility of love.

3) HER HEART MUST PROVIDE AN ENVIRONMENT CONDUCIVE FOR THE BIRTH OF LOVE:

She must be able to provide an environment that is conducive for implantation (attachment) and fertilization (union)  Providing this type of environment; helps aid in the healthy maturation of the life of the relationship.

LASTLY…

4) SHE MUCH NURTURE THE PRODUCT OF LOVE:

Typically, a specific characteristic we possess is a nurturer. Just as we would nourish/nurture our children, we must treat our marriage {present/future} with the same regard.

I know, I know… it seems like the women have all the hard work!!!  But actually, it’s a team effort.  A man needs a woman–and a woman needs a man!

CLOSING REMARKS:

Real love doesn’t occur just because two people meet. It’s a challenging, yet delicate process. One particular man purposefully takes his seed of love and implants it into the vacancy of a woman’s heart. It is up to the woman to receive that seed and create an environment that is conducive to the healthy development of love. It is pertinent to have no one or nothing disrupt its process  Successful fertilization of this seed requires the fusion of one seed and one heart. Other additives (too many people in your business, too many opinions, too many insecurities, unhealed sources) may obliterate the possibility of the life forming in the relationship.

ARE YOU READY FOR LOVE?

C.B. Spyies

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